"It is difficult indeed to struggle against what one has been taught. The child's mind is a helpless one, pliable, absorbing. It makes what it learns a part of its very nature....Yet...you must change your minds, you must renew your hearts, and you must do it alone. There are no teachers for you." ~Pearl S. Buck, To My Daughters with Love
What scares the king of scariness, Stephen King? From a recent NPR Interview:
"So here's the movie that scared me the most in the last 12 or 13 years: The movie opens with a woman in late middle age, sitting at a table and writing a story, and the story goes something like, 'Then the branches creaked in the ...' and she stops and she says to her husband, 'What are those things? I can't think of them. They're in the backyard and they're very tall and birds land on the branches.' And he says, 'Why, Iris, those are trees,' and she says, 'Yes, how silly of me,' and she writes the word and the movie starts. And that's Iris Murdoch and she's suffering the onset of Alzheimer's disease. That's the boogeyman in the closet now. ... I'm afraid of losing my mind."
If you haven't seen it, I recommend it: This Emotional Life, a three part television series put on by the producers of NOVA. On resilience:
For more on the series and a discussion on happiness, click here.
The conclusion? Relationships - the ones we have with family, community and ourselves - are ultimately what makes us happy.