feeling

At Bat

Remember when you learned to play baseball? I do. At the beginning baseball was my only option. There were no girl teams until I was older. No matter. The revelation to me was learning how to hit the ball – to connect.

The first time I did it by accident. It was an eye-widening, giddy moment. The coached yelled at me as I rounded the bases – “Remember!” he yelled, “remember that feeling!”

At my next at bat I tried to find it again. The vibration in my arms, the open sky feeling in my chest. My body looked for that feeling – the passageway to connection.

Of course, I had to swing and swing to find it again.

That’s what I’m looking for now. That feeling when you connect. There’s almost a perfect stillness before it happens. A quiet that portends success. And then after hours in the batting cages and several at bats, without any thought, your body just knows what to do.

You swing and you make contact with a force that wants to pull you off your feet. You follow through and let the bat fall from your hands as the perfect clang of an aluminum bat (hey this was little league) hangs in the air and the ball rises so high and travels so fast you think you imagined it.

Then you celebrate – your body free, you run, you dance around the bases.

I remember that feeling. Which means I can find it again.

I am in the batter’s box, waiting for the pitch.

The Power Paradox

From The Power Paradox:

People who excel in their power—the physician who improves the health of dozens of people a day, the high school teacher who inches her students toward academic success, the writer whose piece of fiction stirs others’ imaginations—they all know this. They feel the rush of dopamine and vagus nerve activation in the purest moments of empowering others and lifting up the greater good.

If you remain aware of this feeling and its context, you will not be entrapped by myths that power is money, or fame, or social class, or a fancy title. Real power means enhancing the greater good, and your feelings of power will direct you to the exact way you are best equipped to do this.

When in Doubt

I was reading about how a challenging past can lead to a happier present when I stumbled upon this nugget:

"the signs of unresolved trauma—withdrawal and isolation, feeling overwhelmed in the face of life’s ordinary ups and downs, not being able to move forward with one’s life and progress toward achieving one’s goals—and take appropriate steps to bring unprocessed trauma to resolution."

I've definitely been there before and I know I'll be there again. I dig myself out with help and by facing the emotions I don't want to face.

And I find that the article is true. I've definitely faced some adversity and find I treasure the little things in my life.  Like my shower's water pressure.  Every day I get in and think, "I love this shower."

Cheesy, I know. But true.

How We're Feeling

The stats for the first two weeks of gottaFeeling are informative. Here's the data:

75% of users prefer English and 3.5% prefer Spanish. Mondays and Tuesdays garner the most sessions - meaning people use the app most on those days. 64% of users are in the U.S. and 18% are in Europe.

It's anecdotal, but I've learned:

  • Many users classify feelings as positive or negative - as opposed to just are
  • There is confusion about what is a feeling - as opposed to a thought (For a good explanation see the FAQs; linked to at the bottom of the website.)
  • Young women are uncomfortable sharing their "negative" emotions on Facebook

Which, of course, has me wondering - how can you know your social network to be supportive if in fact you never give them the chance to support you?