Facebook and Feelings

No doubt you've seen it by now. Facebook wants to know how you feel. Thumbnail_fbfeelings

So what does the creator of gottaFeeling think about this?

Well, to start, some of the listed “emotions” are not actually emotions. For example, “tired” is technically not an emotion –it’s a thought. I know – a little too nuanced perhaps for people to grasp.

Still, they’re going to find what I found, most people will only share emotions that are considered “positive” on Facebook. I did a survey of many of my gottaFeeling users and received the following comment – “Facebook is only for sharing positive things” from multiple users (you can share your emotion via Facebook on the gottaFeeling app).

I’m curious how long the effort will last. I personally think it’s an effort to forge intimacy (the area around which Facebook is most criticized), but I don’t have high hopes for its success. What do you think?

You Can Like This

Of course Franzen did a better job than I did (see my post on the matter on HuffPo). Franzen and I are both talking about connecting and the illusion that we are when using technology.

I particularly liked (no pun intended) Franzen's final paragraphs:

"Instead of continuing to drift forward through my life as a global citizen, liking and disliking and withholding my commitment for some later date, I was forced to confront a self that I had to either straight-up accept or flat-out reject.

Which is what love will do to a person. Because the fundamental fact about all of us is that we’re alive for a while but will die before long. This fact is the real root cause of all our anger and pain and despair. And you can either run from this fact or, by way of love, you can embrace it.

When you stay in your room and rage or sneer or shrug your shoulders, as I did for many years, the world and its problems are impossibly daunting. But when you go out and put yourself in real relation to real people, or even just real animals, there’s a very real danger that you might love some of them.

And who knows what might happen to you then?"

The Best Years of Our Lives

I used to hate when people would tell me that high school was supposed to be the best years of my life. And then promptly panicked that they weren't. It seems though, that high school has become the predictive years of our lives. While much has changed in my life since I went to high school, I am a bit ashamed to admit that many things have not. While surfing the social media scene this evening I had to wonder, is how you were in high school predictive of your social media behavior?

Well, unfortunately, when it comes to one young lady I know well (that would be me) the answer is a resounding Yes.

In high school I was a bit of a loner. I was a nerd insofar as I got good grades but not of the tape-to-keep-your-glasses-together genre. I was also an athlete. Really I should have been more popular but I also had a messy home life to contend with and the often resulting caustic personality. Still I was a romantic soul couched in a pragmatic ethic.

So in high school I had only a small circle of friends and I didn't go out of my way to make many new ones. It seems, even with time and perspective, not much has changed. I'm just not someone who has hundreds and hundreds of friends on Facebook, nor do I plumb the depths of Twitter for followers. But like in high school I often do want to connect with more people or really just connect at all. And that's the hard part of social media - friends, colleagues, followers (could we please come up with a different name? it sounds so lemming-like!) are counted in numbers not nuance. The whole construct seems woefully inadequate for having the conversations that matter; for looking out into the world and finding the light in people that will brighten the way.

What were you like in high school?