"The voice went on, Yes, you waited so many years, but for what? He found his mind blank and couldn't answer. The question frightened him, because it implied that all those years he had waited for something wrong.
Let me tell you what really happened, the voice said. All those years you waited torpidly, like a sleepwalker, pulled and pushed about by other's opinions, by external pressure, by your illusions, by the official rules you internalized. You were misled by your own frustration and passivity, believing that what you were not allowed to have was what your heart was destined to embrace."
~ Waiting, by Ha Jin