The Best Years of Our Lives

I used to hate when people would tell me that high school was supposed to be the best years of my life. And then promptly panicked that they weren't. It seems though, that high school has become the predictive years of our lives. While much has changed in my life since I went to high school, I am a bit ashamed to admit that many things have not. While surfing the social media scene this evening I had to wonder, is how you were in high school predictive of your social media behavior?

Well, unfortunately, when it comes to one young lady I know well (that would be me) the answer is a resounding Yes.

In high school I was a bit of a loner. I was a nerd insofar as I got good grades but not of the tape-to-keep-your-glasses-together genre. I was also an athlete. Really I should have been more popular but I also had a messy home life to contend with and the often resulting caustic personality. Still I was a romantic soul couched in a pragmatic ethic.

So in high school I had only a small circle of friends and I didn't go out of my way to make many new ones. It seems, even with time and perspective, not much has changed. I'm just not someone who has hundreds and hundreds of friends on Facebook, nor do I plumb the depths of Twitter for followers. But like in high school I often do want to connect with more people or really just connect at all. And that's the hard part of social media - friends, colleagues, followers (could we please come up with a different name? it sounds so lemming-like!) are counted in numbers not nuance. The whole construct seems woefully inadequate for having the conversations that matter; for looking out into the world and finding the light in people that will brighten the way.

What were you like in high school?